Women’s Health: Boost Your Libido

Your sexuality is a hugely important part of your health and your life. But unfortunately, for many women in their 40s and beyond and even women in their 20s, sometimes your sexuality is the last thing on your mind when you think about your general health. Feeling sexy or wanting to be intimate with your partner might not even cross your mind, and if it does, you may feel repulsed or just not interested. Losing your libido can be down to a number of things, including your age, going through the menopause, having major operations such as a hysterectomy, hormone changes, as a side effect of certain medications or because you’re stressed out. You could also lose interest in sex when you have children, or you may feel like you don’t have time for sex. If this sounds like you, don’t worry; loss of libido is an entirely normal side effect of many things and it’s also a very normal thing to go through as you get older.

Unfortunately though, this loss of libido can be damaging to your relationship with your partner or to your self-esteem if you’re single. Not feeling like you want to be intimate but not having any reason why you don’t want to be intimate can be hurtful to your partner, as they could feel like they are not attractive enough or like you don’t love them anymore. If you’re single, this lack of libido could damage your self-confidence against looking for new love. So what can you do about it?

Firstly, you should speak to your doctor, especially if you take medication on a daily basis. Many medications list ‘loss of libido’ as a side effect, and so this could be a factor – so speak to your doctor to see if you can swap onto a different medication for your problem. Sometimes, with medications such as the contraceptive pill, it’s simply a case of trialling your meds for a month or two to see if your libido improves. If not, go back to your doctor and ask if you can be moved onto another medication.

Your doctor may also refer you for counseling if your loss of libido is particularly deep-rooted. This counseling can be hugely helpful and can make you realize why you feel the way you do, and it can be especially helpful if you go to counseling with your partner. However, there are a few things that you can do yourself to spice things up a little.

One of the easiest things to do is to think like a man for the day (or the week!). Every time you walk past an attractive man in the street, or you see an attractive celebrity on television or in a magazine, mentally undress them and imagine them naked. It’s what most men do on a daily basis to all women they see – and it’s no secret that most men think about sex constantly.

You should also remember that once you get into being intimate, it’s not that bad – for many women, the problem is the initial hurdle of instigating sex or intimacy. Get into things more by setting the scene – if you have children, get a babysitter for the night and go out and enjoy yourselves together. Think back to when you were first dating or when you were younger and you’d just kiss and cuddle, even in public. Regain that intimacy by spending time together and you’ll find sex begins to feel less like a chore or something to be endured and more like something hugely enjoyable for the both of you.

Another top tip – turn off the television for just one week. Many couples end up not being intimate with each other because they’re too tired – but they find the time to watch a few hours of television a day. Turn off the TV and you’ll find that you have all the time in the world.